Feeling depressed, unhappy all the time in your career and don’t know why? You are probably low on self love. The million dollar question is how do you fill yourself up so that you are happy in every area of your life? This is something that I have been researching over the past year in my career change.
First, I left a very good paying job because the stress was too great, my health was waning, my spark had left and my interests had changed. I started looking for my true purpose in this life. I looked to career coaches that had experienced the same feelings as I had and were able to figure out how to conquer their world, reach their dreams and find their happy place.
I was sick of the long days leading into my personal life and taking my work home every night after a very long stressful day of work. While most people claim to disconnect when they leave work, the cell phone and laptop technology that now have become essentials of the job have made it impossible to disconnect. When you start answering emails from home at night, you begin to set new expectations without even realizing it. I heard a saying that has really hit home with me; that is, “what you allow will continue”. You are actually teaching people how to treat you by what you allow. I never thought of it in this way, so simple yet so empowering if you take it to heart and start living this.
We need to start establishing boundaries between our personal and professional lives. This is easier when starting a new job, but when you have been allowing the boundaries to be pushed, it is a little more challenging for you to change the game easily. Answering emails during off-work hours is the beginning of setting these boundaries for yourself. You need to demonstrate to those you work with, what belongs to your employer and what belongs to you and you only. Set these boundaries between you and your boss, so you don’t give away pieces of your soul.
The biggest take away from this over stressed work experience for me was that I needed to change my mindset. What do I mean by mindset? When you find yourself always focusing on your faults instead of the good in every situation, you tend to obsess with always trying to fix yourself and feel that you are not good enough. Well, why not figure out just what makes you tick instead of trying to feel like you need to fix” you? Start by asking yourself “What I don’t want” to get to “What I do want”.
There are many tools as a Mid-Career Mastery Coach that can be used to create self love levels that you have never experienced before. Will it mean you have to try new things and maybe even change how you think? Absolutely! If you don’t make this change, how can you expect anything different than what you got before?
After we figure how to change the mindset, we can focus on how you can love yourself better. Stop allowing the energy vampires to drain all of your energy at work and at home. You will learn to increase your self love and energy to start vibrating at a higher level and attracting what you want. This will not be easy, because your subconscious mind has been running the show for a long time. You will need to work at this every day until you can learn to control your subconscious mind and better direct your thought process, stop the negative limiting beliefs in their tracks. You might even learn how to pamper yourself and fill up with ways to love yourself better.
It is time for you to take action right now or things will never get better.