- Confront your reality
- Identify the closed doors
- Right the wrongs
- Define your outcome
- Define your next chapter
- Take action
The first step is to confront your reality. What is it that you are struggling with in your current work situation? As a high performer, we often have very high expectations of ourselves and take it very personal when getting a poor job performance review or get let go from a company. We are human and we always are our worst critics, right? Never mind when we over analyze what got us to this point. Did you ever think that you were at this crossroads for a reason? Maybe you have another purpose in life and by the way, what might your life’s purpose be? The exercise I had you complete in part I section 9 on creating your list for what you don’t want and what you do want. I suggested after this exercise that your sit down and write freely about all that you don’t want from this list. This process will bring some clarity to help you sort out what you do want in your next chapter.
Step two of my transformation step is to identify the closed doors. What brought you to this point in your career to make you want and need to make a change? For me, it was my health and job dissatisfaction, which were a direct relationship. There were three events I described in part I in the two sides to my story that helped me clearly see what the closed doors were for me. Now think about this in your case, what do you feel are the closed doors for you?
Step three right the wrongs was the biggest step for me in the transformation process. I was angry about where I was and didn’t understand why. The only thing that helped me get past the anger was the journaling exercise I did that got me to look at my situation from another objective point of view with only the facts. I struggled with this process of removing the feelings from the story and just writing about the facts. I seemed so cold and untouchable to me, but I see why it is important. Being so close to the situation with personal investment in my career, I didn’t really see it from the outside point of view. Maybe my managers weren’t really being unfair in what their expectations as leaders, but maybe I was taking it way to personal. If their bosses were holding them accountable for a certain outcome, then it seemed fair to them to expect the same out of me, right? This is when I realized I was the only one that could improve my performance by meeting with my managers more often to check the pulse of the situation. I hope that you can see my example to better evaluate your own situation and see the benefit this crucial step of right the wrongs. If I hadn’t changed my mindset from the victim to having some control of my performance, then I wouldn’t have grown and shifted my mindset to a positive one.
Step four is forgiveness. This step is difficult if you don’t get step three, because in order to forgive your leaders after righting the wrongs, you won’t find peace. There are no perfect leaders, and sometimes they are selfish in their leadership. Managers may react to a higher level of pressure from their leadership and as a result put pressure on you. In part I, I shared this step of forgiveness and how I wrote a letter to each of my managers about what I felt they handled poorly. I didn’t send those written letters to my managers, but just walking through the steps helped me to let it go through forgiving them for their behaviors. Letting go of the anger or resentment allowed me to move forward and have a positive mindset as a result. What is it that you feel needs forgiveness in your work situation. Were your leaders unfair in giving promotions, pay increases, bonuses, or giving out their attention fairly to all their direct reports? Whatever it may be, write about in your journal and forgive them so you can move on too.
Now that you are ready after the forgiveness step to move forward, the fifth step is to define your outcome. When you have created your exit plan at work or have left your job you will need a plan for your outcome. For this step, in part I you would have created your desired outcome by making the list of what you don’t want and what you do want. Now that you have this clear list and have planned the steps for each of your six main goals, you next step is to take action. Follow your deadlines and reach out to me or another trusted coach that you feel you can relate to and will hold you accountable.
After defining your outcome, in step sixth step is to define your next chapter. What will be your path for the next twelve months and up to five years or more? If you are like me, you have a lot of time ahead of you to build and landscape your next chapter. My last career as a quality consultant, author, and career coach wouldn’t have been possible without a proven professional legacy to fall back on. Your credentials and experience will support you in the years to come for your next chapter. What does that look like years from now?
Finally, step seven is to take action towards your next chapter. You need to put one foot in front of the other and follow the steps you have broken down from each of your six major goals I have helped you to identify for your next chapter. When you complete the seven steps I have outlined here, all you need now is a system to keep you focus and you will find the success you have created for yourself in these seven steps of transformation.
All you have to do is schedule a break through session so we can decide if we are a great fit to work together on the future version of yourself.