There is light at the end of the tunnel?

I know when you are facing a difficult road and are stressed out about work, taking it home with you and can’t seem to escape the feeling of constantly having to be on call feels like.  I have been there too!  This really starts to take a toll on you when you carry your work around with you 24-7.  How come you can’t get yourself caught up and there is always more to do, more expectations, and what seems like a long road to feeling like you got this?

This is where you need to stop for a minute and evaluate how this feeling got to this point. When you internalize your experiences and only see the negative in your experience, it’s hard to see the solutions to help you navigate to the light at the end of the tunnel.

How are you doing at time management?  I am guessing not so good right now, but what can you do to turn it around?  This is the million dollar question, we all face when we let things pile up and get out of control right?  What are your time management habits?  Do you have daily, weekly, and monthly planning check-ins for yourself to stay on track?  Who are you accountable to when completing your major projects?  Do you meet with that person on a regular basis to make sure that you are meeting their expectations and prioritizing appropriately?  These are the questions that come to mind to help you take an objective view of what is on your plate right now.

As a manager, we have to think about the workload we are currently carrying and what makes good use of your time as a manager.  Should you be spending 2 hours a day approving data, or do you have a supervisor that can be developed and delegate this task to?  There are probably some other tasks that you have taken in your role, that just don’t make sense anymore.  This forces us to ask if there is value in everything that you are doing?  Are you the go to person for more than you should be, just because you know all the answers?  The only way this can be rectified is to be less available when they call you at all hours, or talk directly to their immediate supervisor to get this resolved.  Can you imagine all the time an peace of mind that you will get back after this is taken care of? Then you can really focus on what you need to as your priorities and spend less time on stuff that shouldn’t be taking up all your time.

I could go on and on about draining resources and finding solutions to each of these problems, but what I would really like you to focus on first is your mindset while you are at work and what methods you are using to better manage your time.  When  you start having those feelings of dread at work, write them down so we can talk about the feelings behind them.  Once you start identifying these negative feeling thoughts, you can be clued into your sub-conscience thoughts and get to the bottom of what’s driving your negative thoughts, correct them and focus on elevating your energy for positive thoughts instead.  There is light at the end of the tunnel and it starts by you shifting your mindset from overwhelm and defeatism to refusing to let it beat you and taking control of what you can change to make it better.

You are going to have that beautiful destination at work when you get this figured out and be able to find the positive in every situation.  

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What was your biggest work challenge?

Did you think you were going to make it through it?  Are you facing it now.  Well, the worst part of this kind of challenge is that it takes so much out of you, that you have nothing left to give.  You find yourself behind the ball in every way, and you tend to get blind sided by things you were not expecting.  You are not as organized as you usually are.  People are so demanding and critical of you and this makes you put your guard up and become defensive.

You know you are smart and have proved it so many times over and over again, so why is this happening to you?  You have come to this path and closed door?  What will you do now that you are facing it?  It is so much work to climb this massive feat.  The workload is very heavy and gets heavier as the day goes on and you travel up that mountain.  You keep asking yourself, is this really worth all the blood, sweat and tears you give day in and day out?  Are the people I work with the kind that give a damn about their job, this place, and about doing the right thing?  You begin to question your very existence and why you made the choices that got you here.  What is my purpose and who am I here to serve? Is there a life lesson here for me to learn?  Why am I being punished this way?

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

If you are here, then let me ask you this question…are you ready to get out of this misery yet?  Have you thought about what it would look like without all this pain?  There is so much relief that you will see after letting go of the heavy baggage.  All you have to do is decide to map out your plan and get on with the life you really want.

This rock and mountain you have been climbing is not going to defeat you unless you let it.  You really can make the best of the next 20 years you have left by committing to yourself in figuring this very question out…do you love yourself enough to get this done now, or are you going to continue to self punish and endure the pain and misery?

Lots of people are taking the advice of career coaches and mentors these days, because they want a plan that will get them closer to that successful path for themselves.  Choose someone that has walked in your shoes and knows what it takes to create that next chapter and is committed to guiding you on your path by giving you the tools to free your soul and connect with your purpose and map to your future.

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What were you thinking when you took that job?

If you are thinking how you got into this job and what were you thinking when you did, this is the right place to start…

Your Thoughts Create the Real You

No matter what you’ve defined as your next chapter on paper, what you are telling yourself subconsciously in your thoughts? Do you have control, and are you aware of the power of your thoughts to direct your path to your defined next steps? If I find myself letting negative thoughts creep into my mind and don’t shut them down, I get those feelings of insecurity about my progress. This is a normal part of transforming your mindset and living the Law of Attraction.

Look at your circle of influence to seek positive feedback from someone who loves you and has been a steady positive reinforcement for you on this journey is the most helpful. Lean on them from time to time to keep yourself on track. Don’t be so critical of your progress. If you are anything like me, you are your own biggest critic. Others are able to take a trusted outsider’s point of view to see if you are progressing on the desired path you have set for yourself.  If you don’t have someone you can share this with, start looking to find someone that is above your level of success and career and get their perspective.

Whether you use a career coach or trusted person to get advice, this is also a great way to get people on board with your long-term plan, so they can help you stay on track. This kind of accountability and support is what I provide to my clients. I know what it is like to feel unsure of the choices I’ve made in this journey, and as this is a new path, as yet untraveled, for you, don’t be afraid to utilize the resources you have available to you. Make sure that person has the type of experience you have had and has navigated tough situations like yours or similar.

Take this time to evaluate where you are in your career before going any further. Are you clear on the sources of your current and past dissatisfaction? Do the tools in your toolbox support your new vision of where you want to go? If you find that you cannot use some of those tools such as meditation and journal exercises, then let’s explore other options that work well for you to get a clear mind and release the negative energies that are bogging you down or creating the stress in your current work experience.

I would really suggest you get out your goals again and look at each one, focusing only on the top six you have created. What is it about your last experiences that dissatisfies you now? I was disappointed with the leadership in my last couple career experiences. Did the leadership you experienced seem to have a personal vested interest in you and your success? Maybe at first it seemed that way, but after a few years of seeing the behaviors from those leaders, I didn’t feel the walk and the talk were aligned. For me, it is important that we as leaders are doing the same.

When looking for the ideal job or the experience that appeals to you, consider  structuring your interview questions to provide some concrete examples of this. One interview experience that worked well for me was talking to different leader within the organization about the leader I was interested in working for. Did they talk highly about this leader? Did they share specific examples of employee satisfaction that you could relate to? If you can feel good about the leadership and the opportunity you are seeking, then chances are, you will have found a good fit for your next chapter.

Now, how does being clear on your dissatisfaction with the last work experience relate to your thoughts and creating the real you? If you are not clear on the things you don’t want, how can you attract that which is important for you? Finding a job or career choice that supports the best version of yourself will give you the best chance of finding work-life balance, satisfaction with your choice, and alignment with the real you when you have put the time into writing it out and being clear in your mind before you set out for that role. When your mental well-being is satisfied, then your physical well-being will be supported in the process.

There is a major shift in mindset going from a job you hated or didn’t work out well for you to that new role you have created in your mindset.  Those feelings of dread, anxiety, heaviness in your heart and health side-effects you had been feeling in the last job are not going to follow you into the next one if you do it right this time.

I will guide you on how to create your road map to the next to your success . This is where you create your vision of your next career steps. Not only do I want you to find within yourself career happiness, but happiness in all areas of your life. This next exercise involves writing six goals for yourself to accomplish in the next twelve months. When you start thinking about which six you will focus on in the next 3 months, then I will guide you on how to incorporate your core habits and values into your ideal job description whatever that be.  You will start thinking from the perspective of defining your outcome in this new approach instead of the job tasks only.  You will be clear on your top priorities and how important your personal values are for selecting the right role.  When you find that role based on your priorities, that reflect your core values, for example, God, family, career, friends, community, etc.; your strength and confidence will now lead you through the interview process, or changes you plan to make.

Start with the first three priorities and create three to four steps for each goal, then assign due dates for each action under the goals. How much money would you generate and by when? If you are starting your own business, do you have a business plan? Who is your ideal client? How many contracts or clients would you have to secure each month to meet your income goals?

Some people like to work backwards from their desired annual income to a monthly income. For example, if making 120k, or 10k per month how are you going to get there and what are the obstacles that stand in your way? What are your solutions to those obstacles?  This part of the process will require some thinking on what your skill set is and what type business or career you want to pursue.  I have some great examples I have worked through with others and may be able help you get your thought process going on this.

Now I hope I have inspired some food for thought for you and you can start thinking about what is really important to you when you accept a new job and make the decision to change your career path.  If you are looking at staying where you are and trying to figure out how to salvage what is, then it is time to evaluate your current thoughts and the reasons you feel bad about your current experience.  Ask yourself what you can do about it.  If you don’t see any potential solutions, I would be happy to help you figure out next steps and help guide you on your plan to get out.  Let’s talk before you are in the position I was, fearful of your health and worried about.  STOP and do something please…